Stop Living in the Past - If You Want Him, Go Get Him

Tradition has taught women to be meek and demure. When a man is attracted to a woman, he should approach her and make himself known to her. If a woman makes the first move, she’s seen as aggressive or forceful. This is the twenty-first century and not all men want to make the first move.

Have you ever watched an attractive man from afar? You’ve been watching him smile at you while you smile at him. If he’s smiling at you while you are smiling at him, then there’s definitely some type of attraction between the two of you. If you wait until he approaches you, the time may pass and so will your opportunity to meet a man that could be great in your life.

In today’s society, strong independent men appreciate a woman that can take control of a situation and handle it like a lady. Not all men will appreciate a dominant or aggressive woman but they will appreciate a woman willing to expose herself to new adventures.


The men you meet in bars, nightclubs or cafés may have a secret fear of rejection. He may think you are the most beautiful woman in the place but assumes you have a boyfriend
since you are so attractive. He may also fear that you will reject his approach and cause him embarrassment. If he’s with his friends, he will avoid the potential disappoint and simply not approach you.

Self-confidence is a huge attraction to a mature man. Physical attraction, emotional stability and intellectual balance are also traits that strong men find attractive. Exchanging smiles will be fun for a while but the woman that actually approaches him and says hello will be the woman that gets the date.

Treat your new attraction like a new adventure and go exploring. You don’t want to scare him off or make him think you are a pick-up artist; be subtle in your approach. Nevertheless, make your approach.



If he’s with his friends, catch his eye and make your way towards his direction. Smile brightly at him as you pass his table and go somewhere that allows him the opportunity to come to you. Catch his eye again and motion him in your direction. This may be his “boys’ night out”, so be brief and breezy with your name and contact information. Yet, let him know you would like an opportunity to see him again. If he is alone, go to him.

Introduce yourself and let him know you would like an opportunity to see him again. You never know by first glance but he could be Mr. Right. Don’t miss your opportunity because society says wait. Make your own fate and open the door for possibilities.