How to Keep Him - Communication Is the Key to the Best Relationships

To establish good communication with your man, you need to learn how to talk to him. It is very different than talking to your girlfriends. Watch him when he speaks. All men have hot buttons that should never be pushed. They also have buttons that can be pushed with great results. Learn which buttons are off limits and which are open targets.

Pay attention to his body language. Does he tune you out when you begin to speak? If he does, you need to change your approach. Don’t start your conversation with judgment. Don’t compound your conversation with your opinion of his shortcomings and how he should correct them. If you start with either of these approaches, you’ll never establish the level of communication you’re seeking.



There is a time and place for everything. Don’t start your conversations criticizing him or his actions. The topic of his selfishness shouldn’t be addressed when he’s watching the game. The topic of remodeling the house should not be addressed when he’s sorting through piles of unpaid bills. .

Establish a tone that allows him to participate in the conversation. If he feels you are lecturing him or dictating your thoughts to him, he will surely tune you out. Instead, ask him for his opinion on your desired topic. Once he gives you his opinion, accept his thoughts and move on. Don’t read a deeper meaning into the topic. Remember shopping, quick – in and out. If you find the topic pushes a hot button, you know that it’s off limits; move on.